Every man fantasizes about a good blowjob. Most men will say that it’s their favorite part of foreplay, and they will go to extremes to get it. The mental and visual stimulation of seeing your girl down there with her hair hanging over her face is a real turn on for most guys, and besides, they (blowjobs) feel good.
No one knows the history of the blowjob or where it originated, but it was probably for people who didn’t have time for the entire act. A quickie in the backseat of a chariot or something, or perhaps done under the desk of some official because they were busy. Whatever the origin, men have wanted them and women have been cringing away from them for a long, long time.
Why do women find blowjobs so inconvenient?
I’ve heard because it’s messy for those who don’t like to swallow, that it’s very tedious, and that there is little or no feedback afterward. There are some common answers to this question, and knowing the answers could change the way you ask your girl for one.
The number one answer that women give as to why they don’t like to give blow jobs, next to having a heightened gag reflex, is that their men are selfish and fall asleep afterward without reciprocating. It’s really a drag to put the time and energy into giving your guy a good blowjob only to have him roll over and go to sleep.
If you want her to go down on you, the best way to start is for you to go down on her first–and no guilt tripping if she doesn’t want to, this should have been discussed before you two got into bed. No assuming that if you go first, she’ll do you next – agree things up-front. And by the way, the gag reflex is real. She’s not making it up, check out any medical book on the subject; it’s just unnatural to try to shove something that size down your throat. However, with some exercise and practice, if she wants to, she can get to the point where her throat doesn’t start to shut down as soon as she takes you in her mouth, but she needs to want to.
The obvious answer to this dilemma is the 69 position; everyone gets head at the same time. And it’s a lot easier for her to relax her throat muscles if you’re on top. The way that it naturally positions your cock in her mouth will make the shape of your guy and her throat fit together much better. It’s also easier for her to feel you inside her with your tongue. This is by far the best position for oral sex, if you take nothing else away from this, remember that. But remember that your ass will be in her face as well.
This brings us to the next reason girls don’t like to go down on you.
They might not like the way you smell, to put it bluntly. Make sure that you take a shower and don’t use perfumed soap. A great part of pre-head foreplay could be a mutual shower. Never spray your privates with some kind of manly scent, either. It tastes awful and it will probably burn like hell.
If you are particularly hairy, consider a little sprucing up. Pubic hair is just as likely to make her gag as having a 7 inch cock in her throat, so think first. How often do you gag if you get a hair caught in your mouth? It’s like finding one in your food. This is next in line only to it taking forever to make you cum. Sorry, fellas, but your balls just aren’t enough to keep her interested for 20 minutes. If it takes too long to get you off, chances are that she knows it and will cringe from having to suck and lick, let alone gag, forever.
She might not want to swallow and dislikes how you taste. While it’s true that chocolate milk can help the taste of your cum, you will have to start drinking it in the morning in preparation for your date tonight. It might well be worth it. Fruit juice works well, too. The stiff neck and hurting jaw can be a real turn off for women as well, so try a more comfortable position every now and then – make it easy for her…
Here is yet another place where the old Kama Sutra comes in handy. There are some great positions in there for giving mutual oral gratification. If you insist that she swallow, it can be interpreted as a control issue and you’re still not going to get laid, so remember, communication is the key to good oral sex. If she’s willing, you might make a trip to the local adult sex toy store for some outside stimulation – if you’re already pretty hot, you might not take so long to cum, and that will make her very happy.
Speaking of communication
If your girl is really hesitant, she might be talked into giving head if you can tell her that she won’t do it wrong. She may have never given a blowjob before, and you’ll have to show her that you’re not afraid of your own body, that this kind of touching is okay, or that you trust she’ll do her best. Most girls don’t know how good it really feels, so show her.
Here’s the part where you get cautioned as to cleanliness, STD’s, and how to let her know she’s hurting you. While most men react automatically to pain in their nether regions, you need to remember that this is someone you care about down there, and if she’s new, she’s doing her best. Take a minute at the beginning to show her how to grasp–not grab–your cock and how to finger and lick your balls so they don’t hurt. The tip of the penis is very sensitive, and she may not be aware of just how much, so talk to her, guide her hands, stroke her when she’s nervous, and always tell her when she’s getting it right.
I know that using a condom during a blow job is the last thing you want to hear about, but at least take it into consideration, unless you’ve been together for awhile and don’t plan on sleeping with anyone else. You can get pleasant flavored ones. If your relationship is monogamous forget I said anything, but if you’ve just met… best to be safe.
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